Category Archives: other general grief and loss books

Beyond Words -grieving when your child has died.

The death of a child is a heartfelt experience like no other.
It is a deep grief experience that goes beyond words.

The loss affects bereaved parents emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and socially. It makes more demands on them than most others ever realise.

Many bereaved parents say that the only people who can ever genuinely begin to understand what it’s like for them are other bereaved parents. Hearing from others who have ‘been there’ can make all the difference. For this reason, Beyond Words is a handbook that features the honest words, perspectives and suggestions of many bereaved parents. It also offers useful information about managing grief, support options and ideas that may be helpful on the grief journey.

It is comforting, encouraging, informative and practical.

It will also provide understanding and insights to professionals and others seeking to effectively support bereaved parents.
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What’s Happened to Baby? By SIDS (Wgtn), Sands (Wgtn), and skylight

This is an inviting, sensitively written and colourfully illustrated picture book for children 3–7 years old, who have had a baby die in their family/whanāu. The text has been carefully designed to fit a wide range of bereavement situations, including miscarriage, stillbirth, cot death and accidental or natural death of an infant or toddler. It has been designed with the whole family/whanāu in mind and provides a helpful opportunity for parents and caregivers to talk with a young child about this difficult loss. It also features useful notes and information for adults at the back to assist them in supporting their bereaved child. Ali Teo’s illustrations and the text combine very effectively to reflect the multicultural nature of the New Zealand community today.

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Sands Coromandel are trying to raise funds to get a copy of the book “What Happened to Baby?” into every primary school in New Zealand, as a resource for families who have been affected by the loss of a baby. They need your help. Whether it is by monetary donation, the purchase of a book, or materials to make items to sell. Take a look at their facebook page for more information. They sell the most cute handmade ponies and elephants and even have some “twins” for sale!